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Being a feminist and the right to being stupid

So you might have read about the Slut Walk by now.Its basically women raising their voice against the percieved notion of victims of sexual assault asking for it.In a society as patriarchial as ours “it is always the girls fault” and victim shaming and blaming are real issues. So how are we-the self proclaimed feminists going to address this.

Why, by dressing ourselves up in our skimpiest outfit and marching around holding placards.


I try not to judge women because everyone has their own yardstick of sticking-by-my-sisters and what comprises women’s lib. But some of these “symbolic” protests just rally against any ounce of sense and makes me question their purpose.

What will this achieve? Will the women in the Capital suddenly be free of all the butt pinching lecherous guys because of this. Having spent my young adult life there I KNOW the average bloke on the DTC bus will only enjoy the sight of parading naked ladies and rub his crotch harder against one of them the next time she gets on the damn bus. Subtle message, cultural impact-you wish!

My disdain for these shock value campaigns ended with the Pink Chaddi campaign. It achieved nothing apart from giving Pramod Muthalik-the antigonist state level notoriety. Or the put-up-your-bra-color to raise breast cancer awareness. Yes, because when all 342 of my friends read “blue” or “au-naturel” on my status message-it automatically triggers a visit to the nearest specialist or a donation to any of the breast cancer awareness charity.

Women, who are we fooling?I have always felt there is only one answer to a culture where falling in love is a sin and being aggresive or forward undesirable traits-education and being independent.

Not being undressed literally.

As someone said on my Twitter TL “Hope #Slutwalk achieves what basic education, life imprisonment or the possibility of getting lynched hasn’t taught the libidous Indian male.”

Amen to that.


Posted by on June 8, 2011 in Uncategorized



Facebook killed the blogging star?

Happy 2011 my 3 readers!

If any of you are around you would know updates on this blog have become a trickle. So have the updates on many blogs I used to follow-most of them lie abandoned in the vast wastelands of the www-the owners having abandoned their stations without a warning or having signed lucrative book deals and no longer having the bandwidth to update the space.

I am not sure what really triggered this death of blogs? 140 words or less? Or the second life we all lead on facebook?

But I can surely talk about myself. Facebook is frankly just addictive and well available. Its on my laptop and on my mobile. I have “friended” people I had lost touch after school and people on the periphery of my life. I know if they were so important to me they would be in my life right now and not a status update on my timeline blah blah..but you know it thrills me when I find a classmate I had a very casual relationship with (not really a chuddi-buddy) on FB and find that she has a cute little baby or that she is doing great in her field of choice. This is something I would have never known otherwise.  Damn and I like killing imaginary mobsters and playing a farmer too! I like that I can post a photo, tag my friends, write smart alecky comments and set my privacy as per my wish. I like that I can “like” some one else’s smart alecky comment, follow interesting links and feel jealous/smug after seeing how people’s life play out.

So when Mark Zuckerberg is made the Times person of the year ahead of Assage I am okay with it. Zuckerberg affected my life-Assage didnt. I even sympathized with Zuckerberg’s character in “The social network” despite the negative portrayal- I mean they all but put a halo on Eduardo Saverin’s character. (On a side note its a brilliant movie-smart, witty and crisp-do watch it if you havent already)

So yeah when you are already saying all you want to say on FB and twitter, you are already making album after album of everything you do in your life-when all people who ever made the mistake of adding or followin gyou already know when you woke up and what you felt when you did why should one open a dashboard on a blog (which still doesnt have  a mobile app suitable for all  phone types) on your laptop and type out labored sentence after sentence whn 1 cud typ lke dis?

Maybe the ease and comfort of typing out a one liner has taken the joy out of long posts, proof reading them for spelling/grammatical errors and then wait for comments. When your ” I had onion paranthas at roadside stall” update can lead to 15 likes and 25 comments on why thats awesome, where can you find better onion paranthas, how someone once fell sick after eating there etc why bother?

I am not sure whether FB would finally be the answer to all our virtual needs (At one point I thought Google’s set of applications was) but 500 million is a big start. So who knows FB might just kill the blogging star.



Posted by on January 2, 2011 in Uncategorized



No aman ki asha

I am totally going to go against the grain here but if I just cant bear to see one more article with something to the effect of two countries-one voice..the TOI initiative of Aman Ki Asha, an Indo-Pak peace project with the Jang (I will reserve my jokes on that oxymoron right now).

I am all for moving forward in a new decade-war is not an option.I am all for the people are nice and love us but for  the evil military-ISI-mullah theory too, but you know what “fool me once, shame on you;fool me twice, shame on me”.I am sure there are enough people in our neighbouring country who do not support the the strain in relations, I am sure there are people who would appreciate the progress peace will bring to the sub continent. But all the years of living under fear of not knowing when the a trip to the market/cinema/restaurant/airport will be my last trip has made me a little cynical to the reasonable-aam-admi counter theory.

I do not believe any country can continue decades and decades of proxy war, continue pumping billions into its military as the nation starves without a silent acknowledgment of the people. This is the country which has been playing victim in the war on terror while doing nothing about the uprooting the weed growing in the backyard.

ISLAMABAD, Pakistan, Dec. 22 (UPI) — U.S. President Barack Obama’s administration has spared no effort to publicly laud the vital role of Pakistan for the success of its Afghanistan strategy, but what is happening behind the scene tells a different story. Pakistan, going by recent reports, is making no secret of its resentment of U.S. policy, which in essence wants its military to do more to crack down on the Taliban and other militants using its territory as sanctuaries to launch attacks against U.S. and NATO forces in Afghanistan.

That was in evidence last week when the Pakistani military refused to go along with a U.S. demand it go after Taliban commander Siraj Haqqani, who uses his North Waziristan hideout in Pakistan to plan attacks by his warriors across the border.

To think that exchanging a few sweets at Wagah border, having a Pakistani singer give voice to lyrics penned by a Bollywood song writer is going to make them re-route wire transfers to building schools for girls is a bit too much. In fact its makes no difference to us if the government next door is democratic or not. Each one is as vitrolic as the previous. How can a country where people apparently desire peace elect such Governments time after time after time?

There can be only one reason. India hatred is well rooted and popular. Then why does our country play again and again into their hands. Every time  we have initiated a peace process, a war/terrorist attack has followed, be it Vajpayee’s Lahore yatra and Kargil or the Samjhauta Express and 26/11.

Vir Sanghavi wrote this thougt provoking article on Pakistan’s mad man theory

Because the Pakistanis maintain a careful ambiguity about where power actually resides within their society, they are able to speak in many voices at the same time.

Time after time, Indian leaders fall for this. Even as astute a tactician as Indira Gandhi bought ZA Bhutto’s claim that he would not include the acceptance of the Line of Control in Kashmir as the international border  in the Simla Agreement because “public opinion in Pakistan is so strong that I will be lynched when I go back”. Now Pakistan denies Bhutto ever agreed to this.

Can you imagine Indian leaders behaving like this? Can you conceive of Vajpayee saying “I know promised peace but my generals attacked you anyway”? (As Sharif did after Kargil). Can you conceive of Manmohan saying “I want to talk peace but the Hindu fundamentalists will kill me if I appear too reasonable”?

Because we are a stable nation with a single centre of democratic authority, we talk with one voice. And each time, that works against us.

Pakistan has perfected the Mad Man theory so completely that even the Americans have now been taken in. Islamabad says: “if you don’t give us billions of dollars and lots of arms and extract some concessions from India, then our country will self-destruct and you will have instability and Islamic extremism in the region”. And the US gives in.

Within the Indian intelligentsia, Pakistan uses a variation of the same argument: if you don’t do as we say, then our country will self-destruct.

So gullible Indian intellectuals say things like “It is our job to save Pakistan”. Or even “ a strong and stable Pakistan is in India’s best interests.” (Is it? Why? So it can send more terrorists here and keep shifting the blame? Would India really be worse off if Sindh seceded? If Baluchistan revolted?)

If history has taught us anything, it is this: talking peace with Pakistan gets us nowhere. Every peace talk is followed by war or terror.

About the only time in recent memory when we have had degree of peace was between 1972 and 1989. And how did we achieve nearly two decades of peace?

By winning the Bangladesh war.

I put this after reading Roops latest. Shahrukh can continue to praise a neighbour he perceives to be great to maintain a market for his next release. That his point of view. Though maybe if it were his precious son instead of this man’s or this woman’s in Taj on 26/11 patriarchal birth place would have mattered little.(links from Roop again)

But as country, what gets my goat is our amnesia and to see our mainstream media go from sabre rattling to pandering bhai-bhai isms. Can you imagine the US inviting a Taliban trained 11 for a friendly NBA game to improve their relations or an Israel-Palestine rock concert for improving ties. Before we ask others to acknowldge the truth of their lot let us first tell ourselves that we do not need another attack on the Parliament or the market you visit to remind us how well our neighbours wish for us.

Although the IPL refuted the charge of a premeditated conspiracy there was no denying the undercurrent of patriotic fervour. It was strong decision but subtle and hurt the enemy where it hurt most. And for once India revealed a depth to its character, an ability to stand up for itself, a new found confidence that clearly said: ‘Don’t toy with us’. But alas the satisfaction was short lived.

Soon notes of dissent surfaced with our honorable home minister and a Bollywood icon mouthing a namby-pamby view that was in line with India’s perpetual guilt complex.

Its time we do away with the guilt complex, and do away with peace concerts and tokenisms. If  by stopping all trade relations, if by flexing our financial muscle in the cricket world will send the message across so be it. I am no war hawk but am not going around wishing health and prosperity to people who would as quickly see my lot reduced to rubble. And I can always give the Hinduon ki zahaniyat hi aisi hai as the reason for my emotions.

And Goddammit choosing between Shiv Saina and SRK movie aint much choice!


Posted by on February 7, 2010 in Uncategorized


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Because my elitist and expensive institution is better than your elitist and expensive institution

Another day and another best BSchool ranking is out and the school I went to has slipped from the top ten to an inglorious 22nd. The alumni are busy cursing the daylights off the current media relations committee and the school in general.Its another matter the same publication had given us some 15ish rank for past 2 years.

Now its the industry’s worst kept secret not to get too swayed by the rankings.Esp those where institutes like ICFAI make top ten of India.But the truth of the matter is there ARE students who look at the rankings from such “reputed” magazines very seriously esp when the institute in questions isnt an IIM and isnt a private insti with special PR cell.In fact most people wont have heard of this school unless some one you knew studied there limited as it is to taking only engineers.

There is only so much a committee of students can do.And there is only so much one director of placements can do. When the rest of the babus running the show realise we are no IIM and need to build a brand equity to get anywhere in todays race to grab the best talent then only something can be done.

Hell, one building institutions are climbing ahead of our 63 acres in infrastructure rankings. I really dont know who was sleeping more-the person who did the ranking or our insti people.

**Cross posted at my new tumblr account


Posted by on September 28, 2009 in Uncategorized