What brought this on? bhupen’s blog did…this is the first time am reading his and generally i do not comment on issues at college( unless it involves a great degree of self mockery) but boy do i no we(dragging my friends along) have issues..
The issue at hand is a failed class trip or rather another failed attempt at class trip.Writes bhupen…
where nobody wants to go with anybody,somebody obviously wants to go with somebody, and everybody is not ready for anybody!!!!!
Unity has been a hallmark of our class since the very first year..Two people who may seem best of friends one day may not speak for the remaining semester.We come from vastly different backgrounds and upbringing and we either accept that and move on or we judge that person based on our moral values.As long as somebody is not getting in your way and not causing you any harm the reason not show the basic curtesy of being an classmate is beyond my limited comprehension..
Further bhupen writes
The thing called character is not reflected by your huge actions which you take consiously.It’s those things which you were doing, thinking that “you don’t care” which ultimately go down in character books.And those guys, who did all these, might have boosted themselves, or boosted by close friends have gone down in memory of their own classmates as “CHEAP, and LECHERS”.When we cannot respect our own classmates ,how on earth can someone dream to go around with them.If you thought you were looking “cool” doing all that, well i am damn sure you have ended up being “fool”.
A tragic reflection of my college days is that i will leave this place with just three friends..But perhaps its better to have three friends who will stand by you than those who claim to be friends and yet do nothing when you are being slandered..Once i leave this place and fate brings me face to face with a classmate tomorrow I do not know if i ll acknowledge them or they would acknowledge me..instead of leaving college with a larger network of friends and great memories i would leave this heaving a sigh of relief,thinking the ordeal is finally over,misjudged,misinterpreted and sad..half wondering if i went wrong somewhere…but how is anybody to respond to people who derive joy in the discomfort of people who study with you,whom you have known for a long time now,whose idea of being cool is to pass comments hiding in group of friends and then pretend to be a nice guy when alone or if they want some help…
We have come to point of no return.Nobody can change his/her image from now on.So what is the least which can be expected is a lesson, that what should not be done in future.
That bhupen has got right..just the empty words ki yeh last semester hai will not undo things that have continued for 3 years..What i could hope is both you and i go on to better places from here where we would meet people closer to our way of thinking and that if we dont we would have greater tolerance and would not stereotype somebody because it was easy and the done thing..
And since the 4 of us couldnt live by the rules of morality we were supposed to, damn am happy we lived exactly like we wanted and with whom we wanted..